Here is the hardest confession that I have ever had to make to God!
DON'T! GIVE! UP! Will you relapse? YES! BUT DON'T! GIVE! UP! You hear me? Whoever is reading this, I am telling you that there is hope for you! FIGHT BACK! I want to tell you all my story and save the rest for my book that I am going to write soon.
https://idontknowanymorevme.blogspot.com/2020/12/need-inspired-by-song-titled-tsuranuite.html (Here are some inspired lyrics from one of my favorite anime songs)
One of the biggest mistakes that I made in my life, was tell myself that "It will never happen to me! I have been baptized and known God since I was a little baby. Surely, I will be strong enough to fight it off!" Listen to me when I say this. I don't care if you have known God since you was in the womb and went to church every day a church service was open, YOU CAN STILL FALL FOR THIS TRAP!!!!! But how? How can somebody like you fall for such an "obvious" trap? Sit back, get your Bibles out, some tissues and a couple of snacks. It's gonna get bumpy.
Before I begin, I want you all to focus on all the bible verses on the following link https://www.openbible.info/topics/pornography. ESPECIALLY Matthew 5:28, 1 John 2:16, Psalm 119:37, James 1:14-15 AND Galatians 5:19-25. Read these verses every time that URGE comes back to bite you. Also, watch a bible sermon talking about this very topic everyday until that tempting spirit flees from you. Afterwards, pay attention to my five step plan that will help you break this awful habit. And never forget one thing. DON'T JUDGE ME OR ANYBODY IN THIS COMMENT SECTION! (For that is very sinful and unrighteous)
The unknown feelings of confusion through perversion, all started when I was 5 years old. Yeah. You read that right. 5 YEARS OLD! I am 28 now. But how at the age of 5? Listen carefully and I will tell you.
My Father was raised by a man who was a pimp and taught him so many wrong things about women. As you can see, my Father would teach me those same things (when my Mother wasn't around or was at work) because he became so BITTER towards women and what they did to his Father. He would make remarks about their body and joke about how they act when they are angry and etc. No harm and no foul right? Wrong!
That hurt me when I was a kid. This was the same Father who ABANDONED my Mother and I, when I was 5 years old. My Mother cried so many tears and we prayed a lot more than usual. So where am I getting at by telling you all of this? What is the purpose of me going on and on about what my Father did to me mentally? I am getting there. Just hang on.
Here are a list of things that my Father would tell me about women: (Even after the age of 5)
1. Women will betray you and plot against you when you least expect it.
2. You need to date a BLACK woman when you are older. If you date any other race of women, they will take you to court and use you.
3. You are a king. Women listen to you and not the other way around. (He was telling me that I don't have to be nice to them)
4. Most women will use you because you are a good person. (Never fully explained what that meant, which led me to confusion)
5. What do you think son? (shows me a picture of a woman that he is dating AFTER he broke up with my Mother and destroyed his vows. Oh the many times I wanted to punch a HOLE in a wall)
My Father has done so much damage to me mentally when it came to women, that it caused me to be single and to NOT trust women at all. Anything that was the opposite of my gender, I had those same phrases/sentences play in my head over and over again. Even when I talked to my Mother about this, it would end with them arguing and my Mother just praying for me, instead of talking to me about it. The cat is out of the bag. Might as well tell me about it. (Yes. My Mother did talk to me and corrected me on the lies that he told me. However, it didn't help because the DAMAGE was already done. See? A boy needs to hear this from a MAN at the end of the day. A woman or women can tell me the truth about what my Father did, but it won't help a lot. Any man reading this, will understand where I am coming from.)
So where did that lead me? Simple. Confused. Lost. Hurt. Secretive. And scared of certain women/girls.
As time went by, I was made fun of, ridiculed and bullied by women and girls. They thought that I was strange, weird and odd for always talking about God and just being so mannerly/really smart. They messed with me, made sexual jokes towards me and even lied about liking me. Guess what happened afterwards? Yup. I developed a hidden HATRED for the opposite sex. (I will talk more about this in my book in chapter format)
Even though I met TONS of good people in my life that helped me, prayed for me and etc., the pain was still there. And while I met many girls (when I was a kid) and women who cared about me, one little joke they made towards me, caused me to be fueled with hidden rage again. I did everything at that time. Pray, read the Bible, go to church and etc. But the agony/confusion was still there.
What made it worse, was that my Father would always introduce me to a new woman he was dating, every couple of years after marrying the previous ones. Yes. This is what I had to deal with while trying to get my education, help my Mother out with foster care kids/daycare kids and doing extra curricular activities. Was it fair? NO! But I kept on pressing forward.
What did this do to me mentally as the women would make small jokes, about me being a virgin and as little girls would say sexual things to me that would creep me out? It caused me to get into femdom, foot fetish, BDSM, giantess, karate fetish and the list goes on and on and on. One day during my teen years, a friend of mine introduced me to this hardcore porn site. I didn't go on it, but my perversions (thanks to the things that my friends and my Father introduced me to through cartoons, anime, movies and etc.) lead me into being curious about "girls feet, crush fetish and femdom." It was bad and it lasted on and off since 2008. I was fighting this, cried, felt shame, praying against this, shouting to God, talking to certain people that I could trust and etc., for a long time.
When Michael Jackson died and most people, were making lies/stating jokes about him, it caused me to say "SCREW THIS HYPOCRITICAL WORLD! If they would do that to one of my favorite pop singers/motivational figures, they would do that to anybody." (I don't know why, but I always wanted to meet and talk to him. But I couldn't and I was so furious at myself. I was depressed for a whole month and I wouldn't listen to anything MJ related for a good decade) I became numb, more logical towards people and I stopped caring about how many times I masturbated. I became somewhat cold, but kind to women and I always wanted them to "stay the hell out of my way." Why? Because every time I tried to give them a chance when it comes to dating or friendship, they cracked a joke about me, overly critiqued my art or wished me dead.
What's worse, is when I decided to talk to people about my fetishes and how I need help, I was met with "you are going to hell, your a weirdo, you are an abomination to God, your retarded" and the list goes on. The most INSULTING response I got from people was, "It's NORMAL and you should just ACCEPT it." But the God wants us to be abnormal and not CONFORM to this world. I gave up. I shut down and just talked to God about it, as I cried many tears on the inside, every time I had weird thoughts about females in the fictional and non-fictional verse.
Then it got WORSE! I was always in hiding when nobody was at the house, so I can imagine myself getting beat up by women, kicked, stomped on, spat on and etc. (And it was even difficult for me to enjoy new TV shows and anime, without having a scene or a line of dialogue from a woman scare me, creep me out or turn me on) I always felt like, "This is what I deserve and God is just punishing me for all my sins in the past." I would go on Twitter, Deviantart, Pixiv, rule 34 and etc., just to get my fix. I was so broken and yet so saved. How ironic. I didn't know that record was playing in my head until TODAY! (I am literally crying right now and I just want to get this over with. So I will go into more detail when I finish my book soon)
It took me 12 years to fight this off and to finally be delivered from it. (I have been delivered from this many times, but THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT!) I understand that you all maybe confused and ask, "But how did this happen again and what are you trying to say?" I get it. I understand. And I realize that me ASSUMING that "people don't get me and never will" is what got me in this mess in the first place. Case in point, I am on my knees begging you. PLEADING WITH YOU! FIGHT BACK THE URGES AND DON'T GIVE UP! Here is my five step plan to help you all out in someway:
5 step plan to DESTROY your SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS!
1. Get a pen and paper fast! (write down what you are doing, why you are doing, what you are getting out of it and what caused you to do this. You need to do this when you are having those feelings that you can't control! SHARE THIS WITH SOMEBODY YOU LOVE AND TRUST!)
2. Read bible verses on porn and repeat what the word of God says about it.
3. Listen to ONE sermon a day about porn, to help you fight it off.
4. Ask yourself, "What SHOULD I be doing right now?" (Read a chapter in a book, take a walk, exercise, talk to your Dog, draw out how you feel, write a poem and repeat until you feel better)
5. Pray and reveal to God what you did! (No sugar coating it either. BE RAW WITH GOD but respectful!)
I pray that this helps you all and I feel so much better being able to tell you all this. God bless you all, I am praying for you all in the comment section/everyone on Earth. Mask up! Follow CDC guidelines. Tell yourself that this is a season and that they are temporary. YOU GOT THIS! DON'T GIVE UP! FIGHT! FIIIIIIIIIIIIGHT! FIGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHTTTTTT!
My bigolive is vme20212024 (I do Bible teachings there and talk about positive things in life)